Kpeden - I am curious to see the studies that you are citing, as I have not personally read a single one that is consistent with your perspective. In fact, every reputable study I have seen shows that the single most effective way to encourage the repetition of constructive and positive behaviors is through praise and rewards. In order to stop unwanted behaviors, consequences are certainly necessary as well, but the same method cannot typically be used to effectively achieve both goals.

The problem with reward systems is studies have proven they do not work. Punishment works. Consequences work. The problem with rewards is that once you start this merry-go-round, the child will come to expect to be rewarded for everything you ask them to do only they will want you to up the ante. Not a good value to teach a child. The next time your child has a temper tantrum tell them they will need to go into the half bath or other small room away from others until they gain control of themselves. With time, they will realize that their tantrum only results in isolation not rewards and they will stop.