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How do I make my toddler feel safe?

My 3 1/2 year old was home sick yesterday. During her nap she suddenly woke up screaming/crying but no tears were coming out. She was very worked up, and she wouldn’t let me hug her; she would run away from me. This is not normal for her; she is usually attached to my hip. She also peed in the bed while this was happening, but she’s been potty trained for over a year and she doesn’t usually have accidents. Do you know what would cause this or how to prevent this from happening again?

Submitted by Schoolcraft.20

Your toddler's brain undergoes some significant changes around the age of 3. This includes sleep changes -- and, unfortunately, nightmares often make their first appearance at this age. To make it more complicated, she's not at an age where she understands the difference between "dreams" and "reality."

Comfort and reassure her. Tell her you understand she had a bad dream, that something scary happened, but you're with her and will keep her safe. Over time, she will start to understand the difference between dreams and reality.  Until then, offer repeated reassurance. Try some sleep-easy rituals for preschoolers, like "Monster Spray," which can work wonders. Fill a spray bottle with water and use it to spray away the scary dreams before bed each night. Let your daughter use the spray, too, to chase the monsters away.

The answers from our experts are for educational purposes only. Please always refer to your child's pediatrician and mental health expert for more in-depth advice.

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