Q: I am having trouble potty training my daughter who will be 3 in April. She does great at school but once she gets home its almost impossible for me to get her to go potty. However she does GREAT pooping in the potty, but peeing is another story. I've done everything that I know to do. My goal is to have her potty trained by her 3rd birthday. What should or can I do?
A: By three or three and a half most children should be able to be toilet trained. If she is successful at school I would talk to them about how they get her to go. Do all the children go at certain set times? Is there some sort of a reward for success or staying dry? Then try to replicate that at home. Setting a schedule can be helpful for some children (i.e. we get up in the am and sit on the potty, then we sit on the potty before snacks, meals, and bedtime) Try to keep the experience positive, don’t ask if she “needs to go” just state that “it is time to go potty”. If she is successful reward her with praise and/or small treats. Buy a few small toys the hang them one at a time from the shower curtain and tell her that when she is dry for the whole day she can have it at bedtime. Once she is successful a few days, make it two days for the toy and then three. If you can be consistent and not make it a negative experience she will likely succeed by your April goal.